Here is the lesson I have been gifted with. ITS ALL GOOD. No matter what choices we make, if we look at them with love, they are all good. Sometimes friends think that it is their "job" to point out your faults and maybe patterns of behavior that they judge to be bad. I can't agree with this. I believe that a friend is someone who maybe once says hummm what about this, or have you considered this... This language gives you the opportunity to look at something and decide for yourself if is truth. But when someone comes from a place of judgement they say humm what about this and if you don't see it my way then I am out the door, gone, removed from the situation, no longer to be connected... And that is hurtful to receive.
So my hope for all of us is this: when we judge others, look into our heart and ask the question, what about this situation do I fear. Why do I feel that I have the power or "responsibility" to change someone elses view or behavior. Is this behavior a trigger for old stuff maybe that was experienced in early times by my parents, siblings, society. And does it work for me?? If it works for you and you find that you are supported in this belief than more power to you. But, if after asking yourself if it works for you and you hear it doesn't, than have the courage to say "maybe I don't see the situation as you do, but I love you anyway". I'm here for you in sadness, in joy and from a place of witness so that you can experience all that you came here to experience and be all that your journey brings to you... With Love, Janet
